Cohabiting during a Divorce

Moving from one household to two can be difficult in several ways. It is difficult financially, it is difficult emotionally, and it can be difficult for the kids. It can also be hard to get exclusive possession of the home unless one party voluntarily leaves or you go to court and possession is ordered by the judge which can take up to thirty days. As a result, people often end up living together through at least part of the divorce process. Here are some tips to make it easier on the whole family:

ESTABLISH NEW RULES

You may be living together but it is natural for things to change during a divorce. Usually you would each establish your own living space within the home so that you can have separate space.

DIVIDE FINANCES

The household bills need maintained through the divorce. Each of you should pay your own personal living expenses but you should come up with a plan to split any joint expenses fairly.

SET UP PARENTING TIME

Even though you are living in the same home, it would make sense to set up a parenting schedule so you each have your own dedicated time with the kids.

COMMUNICATE WITH THE KIDS

If you have kids, they will likely notice the change. If your kids are old enough it is important to discuss the change together as a family and not individually. This can give them a chance to ask questions and process everything.

ALTERNATIVE: KIDS STAY IN HOME

Sometimes, if cohabiting is not possible, you can have the kids stay in the marital residence and create a schedule to alternate going back there for parenting time with this kids. A court would be unlikely to order this kind arrangement without an agreement for it in place because it takes everyone getting along, but it can work if your divorce is not hostile and you need some time to establish two separate households.